My Most Ambitious Organization Project Yet (A Love/Hate Story – About Lego). And Also A New Nut-Free Breakfast/Snack the Kids Should Like

My kids love lego.  Well, at least in theory.  They love researching all the different sets, they love watching The Brick Show, they love receiving Lego, and they love to build their new Lego sets.  Once.

After which, completed sets are left forgotten, languishing in bins, or on shelves in their rooms, only to get bumped, jostled, and slowly, broken apart.

Lego, in our house, hasn’t held much lasting play value.  While that is changing a bit for my daughter – who is showing signs of treating her “girl” lego like a little village of dollhouses – for the most part, lego sets have been a one-shot deal in our house.

Which leads me to where I am today.  In the midst of my most daunting organizational challenge yet.

Of course, this is me, I have just one small digression before I get on with my story.

When Lego first came into our house, and a set was built, I immediately put any extra pieces into a plastic bag along with the instructions.  That system worked great.  Until things like birthdays and Christmas happened and my son received multiple Lego sets, that he seemed to build all at the same time.  I gave up trying to keep everything separate, and just put any extra pieces into one big bin and all the instructions into another.  But then the sets started to fall apart, losing a piece here and there.  As that happened, I just threw those pieces into the “spare part” bin too.  Last year, while the kids were home with a virus, I got super ambitious and actually sorted the spare part bin into colours, but that’s as far as my organization of the Lego went.

Until this weekend.

When I started in earnest to fix the mess that our Lego collection had become.

See, as the kids are getting older, and the toys they play with are changing, I am finding that we are ready to switch up the way we organize our basement play room.  But in order to do that, I had to deal with the Lego . . . Also, I made cleaning out the play room and organizing the Lego two of my monthly goals in my PowerSheets this month too, so I do have some motivation to tackle this task.

 

I have now taken out ALL of the instruction books we have, sorted them by genre and am now slowly (VERY slowly) assembling all the pieces for each and every set we have.  As I collect the pieces, they go into a plastic bag, along with the instruction book, ready to be re-built.

Here’s the thing about this project – while my kids can build a set faster than you can say Lego, it takes an inordinate amount of time to dis-assemble what remains of those sets and find any/all of the missing pieces.  I’ve a good 4 days into this, and there is NO end in sight.

The Husband thinks I’ve lost my mind – and maybe he’s right.  But I am determined to to see this project through – if for no other reason than the satisfaction I will derive from completing it.  Although I am also harbouring dreams of the kids, and my son in particular, taking out these sets and building them again with his young cousins as they enter the age of fasciation with all things Lego.

It’s at this point where I should be offering some sort of advice as to how not to get yourself into this mess.  Sadly, I have none.  Kids will be kids, lego isn’t permanent, and I there isn’t an organizational system in the world (that I could come up with anyway) that would have prevented this mess.

But, I can offer some advice as to what you might want to fuel yourself with if you’re staring down a massive organizational project. . . or if you just want something different for breakfast.

I am continually on the hunt for foods the kids can eat for breakfast/snacks, that they LIKE, that are nut-free (so they can take them to school), and that are not filled with sugar.  I made these last week.  While I think they are fantastic, the kids were lukewarm on them.  If I’m being perfectly honest, they are better warmed up a bit . . .but for a recipe that has no sugar, no eggs, no milk, potentially no diary (if you use coconut oil in place of butter), they are GOOD.  In fact, I enjoyed 2 myself this morning with a strong coffee as I sat down to write this post . . .

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Oatmeal Muffins (Gluten, Dairy AND Nut-Free)

  • Servings: 24
  • Difficulty: easy
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Ingredients

  • 5 cups rolled oats (gluten free)
  • 2 1/2 cups mashed ripe bananas (about 5)
  • 1/2 cup butter or coconut oil
  • 2 cups water
  • 2 tsp vanilla
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 2/3 cup Enjoy Life chocolate chips (or any kind of fruit or nut that you want to add – these are totally versatile muffins – just note that if you use frozen berries, the cooking time will be longer!)

Directions

  1. Heat the oven to 350 and prepare 2 muffin tins with liners (or grease them well)
  2. Melt the butter in a small saucepan.
  3. In the bowl of a stand mixer using the paddle attachment, or in just a plain bowl, mix all the ingredients together until they are well combined.  At first it’s going to seem like the recipe calls for too much water – but it gets absorbed relatively quickly.
  4. Scoop the batter into the prepared muffin tins and bake for at least 30 minutes.  You may find you need more depending on what fruits/nuts you add in.

The Antithesis of Overwhelmed

How often have you heard your friends tell you, “I’m just so overwhelmed”.  How often have you been the one saying it?

How many mornings a week do you find yourself running around, desperately trying get everyone out the door with everything they need for the day?  (And how often do you end up making 2nd trips home/to schools/to work because something has been forgotten at home?)

How often do you end the day with a drink or a “treat” as your reward for making it through your crazy/hectic/stressful day?

I am guilty of all of the above.  Just not lately.

All because I’ve read, researched and experimented and come up with a few simple routines for me, and my family, that has made all of our lives a whole lot less “overwhelming” and a whole lot more enjoyable.

And I will get into just what those are if you allow me one little digression here . . .

When you’re faced with a crisis in life (in my case it was a brain tumour diagnosis 4 months after my 2nd baby was born), your outlook changes.  For me, the uncertainty around my tumour, the surgery, and the prognosis lead me down a path where I wanted every moment I had with my kids to be magical – so that they would have happy memories of me if the worst came to pass.  I’ve talked about this before – trying to make every minute of everyday life magical is kind of the opposite of fun.

As I hit the 5-year post-treatment milestone almost a year ago, the fear associated with my tumour started to subside.  And I started to look for better ways to live my life.  In the last year I’ve read a LOT of self-help books.  I’ve done a lot of work around my One Little Word each year (last year it was Joy – this year it’s Light).  And I’ve learned that while there is magic in the big exciting things in life (that’s why I’ll always love Disney), there’s just as much magic, if not more, in the small everyday moments in life.

One of the books that really affected me was The Desire Map.  The central thesis to this book/way of life is to start with how you want to FEEL.  And once you have identified how you want to feel as you move through life, you can then set up your life, and how you choose to live it, so that you can always feel that way.

I’ve also found myself dipping in and out of Gretchen Rubin’s world through both her books and her podcasts.  In particular, I’ve become completely enamoured with the concept of the “One Minute Rule” – if you can do it in a minute, get it done.

And then this summer, I discovered the Simplified Planner and PowerSheets.

Together, these resources (which I’ve also talked about here and here) have allowed me, and my family, to fall into the routines that have allowed us to lead our lives in a way that is the antithesis of overwhelmed.  So what are these routines exactly???  Well, here goes:

  1. At the start of each year, I pick my “One Little Word”.  This is a word that I help to guide how I want to feel in a given year, how I want my outlook to be for a given year, and what I want to focus on in a given year.  This year, working with the Desire Map, the One Little Word course, and Powersheets, I chose the word LIGHT; I want to be a light (to my kids, my family), I want to capture the light (hence my Instagram photos of the sky with the accompanying quotes), and most of all, I want to BE light – both physically AND emotionally.
  2. At the start of each year, I also contemplate what didn’t really work over the past year, or what’s really driving me crazy.  This is also an exercise that Powersheets takes you through as part of their goal planning process.  For me, doing this allowed me to see that there were things both inside my home, and things that we were doing outside our house that were driving us all nuts.  Specifically, the clutter, and design of parts of our house were getting to all of us.  And as a family, we were simply trying to fit in too many activities, some of which provided questionable benefit (and more importantly enjoyment), and not doing enough of the things that we really loved to do.

    So . . . I used my “Mom veto power” and simply didn’t sign the kids up for activities that they weren’t absolutely invested in.  Would they like to have a one hour tennis lesson on the weekend . . . sure . . . do they fanatically love the sport or is not taking a weekly lesson going to negatively affect their future in some horrible way?  No.  And thus tennis lessons were scrapped.
    Did my son want to stay after school a few more times a week to do different clubs that would expose him to new and exciting ideas?  Yes.  And the clubs got added.
    As for me – I have dabbled in skating lessons over the past few months.  But skating falls on the same day as my sewing class (which I REALLY want to take and to enjoy), making for a jam-packed day.  Do I enjoy skating?  Yes.  But not enough right now to pack my day so completely.  So skating’s been cut.

    And as for things around the house – the clutter is slowly being dealt with.  And a contractor has been enlisted to help us fix he issues we have with our house.

  3. Once the “skeleton” of our weeks has been laid out (and to be fair, I assess our involvement in extracurricular activities on a term-by-term basis), then I can start planning my goals/hopes/dreams for the coming months.

    This year, I have been thoroughly loving using Powersheets to keep me on track in terms of my monthly/weekly/daily actions supporting my desire to “Be Light”.  Because I can set new goals each month, and because goals can be set for different lengths of time, I can choose how I want to focus on getting the things done that are going to help me feel Light.

    For example, this month, I’ve set monthly goals to sort out the kids’ Lego, to clean out the play room and to clean out our craft storage.  I could have chosen to make that a daily goal – but I know that with each of these tasks, I’m far more likely to achieve them in bigger spurts once or twice a week.  Conversely, I’ve set things like drinking 5 glasses of water a day, ab / pull up work, and working out as daily goals to keep me motivated to work on those aspects of my life on a daily basis.  And then there are the weekly things which are things I tend to do once a week during my Sunday weekly planning session.

    Don’t worry – the Husband doesn’t get left out of this planning either.  A big priority for us both is making sure we get in a daily workout.  This means that we look at how we structure our days/weeks so that he will have the energy to get up at 4:30 to squeeze in a workout before work (the timing that works best for us all, as insane as it may sound).

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So, now you know how I work on the big-picture part of our lives.  Planning, cutting back, only doing those actives (and that applies to all of us in the family) that are either essential (swimming lessons for the kids, working out for the adults) or that we absolutely love (clubs for my son, skating for my daughter, sewing for me, guitar practice for the Husband) help ENORMOUSLY in all of us feeling less overwhelmed.

But what about the nitty-gritty stuff – how, on a daily basis do I keep things light in the family, do we get everything done, and still have fun?

  1. As I talked about here, I plan my week ahead in a few minutes on a Sunday morning.
  2. During the day, I try my best to observe the one minute rule.  If I can deal with something in under a minute, I try to get it done right then and there.  For example, when the credit card and bank statements arrive in the mail, I try to check them over immediately and then file them straight a way.  It takes less than a minute to file a few bills, but let those bills pile up . . . and you can end up spending a good hour sorting and filing it all – which is never the way I want to spend an afternoon.  The same applies to putting things away – from shopping to laundry to just the daily stuff of life – take a minute, put it away, and forget about it.  Far better than to let it all pile up and require huge chunks of time to sort it all out.
  3. We have routines for when we get home from school/activities; school bags are emptied and then re-packed with everything that will be needed for the next day (water bottles, snacks, gym clothes, dry outdoor gear, and shoes all go back into the bags).  If the school bags are fully packed and nothing more needs to be added, the bags are zipped closed.  If, however, something still needs to be added (outdoor gear that needs to dry over night, homework that needs to get done), we leave the zippers on the bags open as a sign that they’re not 100% packed for the next day.  As the kids are getting older, they are getting more involved in this process too – we often discuss what needs to go into the bags for the next day and then assemble it together.

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  4. I aim for the smoothest, best mornings possible.  I can’t even begin to explain how great the feeling is when you drop your kids off at school knowing that you’ve all had a happy stress free morning. For us, this means prepping breakfast items at the same time as dinner is being made (or as we’re doing the clean-up from dinner); fruits and veg are chopped for smoothies and omelettes, the coffee maker is filled and the timer turned on, and anything that needs defrosting can be put out to thaw (like when the kids have muffins for breakfast).
  5. With school bags packed the night before, activity bags prepped on the weekend, and breakfast items ready to go, we’ve found a lot more time in the mornings!  In this time, we’ve been able to “pre-do” homework – things that my son needs to do on a nightly basis (like practice his spelling words) can get done as soon as breakfast is finished.  Our daily 20 minutes of reading for both kids also often gets done before school.  And at that, we still often have time to play (my kids are early risers, though, which gives us an good extra hour in the morning).  If you kids are slow to wake in the morning, there is even more reason to pre-prepare everything – if you only need to focus on feeding and dressing them, and not also assembling everything they need for the day, how much smoother would your mornings be?
  6. While I make my breakfast (I usually eat an omelette of some sort), I also make my lunch (usually a salad of some sort).  If I have a busy day, my salad comes along with me.  But if I’m home for lunch, it’s there, waiting for me.  This not only ensures that I’m eating properly, it also lets me maximize the time I have while the kids are in school.  I also tend to pack a water bottle and a snack for me (a few nuts, a fruit) so that I’m never in a position where I am starving, and find myself looking longingly at treats at Starbucks!
  7. As I have had time to practice these rituals/routines over the past few weeks and months, I am finding I have more and more pockets of time in which to get things done.  This may mean errands or chores, or it may mean chipping away at things I’ve wanted to do for a long time (like organize our photos and get caught up on photo books), or it may involve trying out new recipes or working on this blog.  But more importantly, it also means that I have more and more enjoyable time with the kids; I no longer am constantly obsessing over what needs to get done, what I haven’t gotten done, or what I could be doing.

So that, in a nutshell, is how I’ve found a way to live a life that is the antithesis of overwhelmed!  The fact that we can plan to eat well, sleep an adequate amount of time each night, and make sure to prioritize exercise, we physically feel better living this way.  And by not inhabiting a life that makes me feel constantly overwhelmed, I feel far better emotionally too.

I hope that in some small way this post can help you to make your life just a little bit less overwhelming and maybe, just maybe, a little more magical.

 

 

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